Thursday, October 28, 2010

Love the process

The process of life. The process of learning, of falling, of getting back up and rising higher than before. The process of being turned upside down shaken really hard and then put upright again, feeling all jumbled.

This life that we are living is a process and there are high times and there are low times. There are people that come in our life, significant others, friends, family and there are people that go. We have delicious romances and we don't know how long they will last. They may only be temporary, they may be forever. Things happen, traumatic events in our lives, people leaving, loves ending, amazing events, blissful experiences, magnificent people.

Can we go day to day and not label them good or bad? Can we trust in the process and see the divine in all that happens? Can we trust the process even more? Can we be more open and receptive, more in the flow of life, breathing in each experience and taking it in processing it as it comes. Not reacting to it, just being with it, watching it.

Loving it...the whole process. Just loving each part, good or bad. That is all that it is...a process. Sometimes there is a deeper meaning that is trying to reach us, that is calling us to pause and listen. To see the whole picture, not just are little panoramic view. To take the blinders off and really look around. Pause and Listen...right now. What is your breath trying to tell you? What is your body trying to tell slow down? To speed up? To just stop altogether? Stop and tune in and see. Check in to the experience that is happening right now inside, the lungs filling up, expanding then deflating, contracting. The heart pumping, the blood flowing, the breath moving, the stomach digesting. Stop and tune in to it all. Be with this magical body that does all of these things for us. Meditate with that. Just sitting, breathing and tuning in. It is fascinating. This is the process, or part of it.

Love the process. All of it. Pause and listen. What is the universe trying to tell you right now. Pause and listen.

Love and Light

Wednesday, October 27, 2010


Follow your magnetism. Who/what are you magnetized to? My dear friend Larisa gave me a great piece of advice, she said when it comes to relationships, any relationship that is in our life...follow what you are magnetized to. Instead of questioning it and wandering if it is right, or wishing it was this way or that, simply follow what you are magnetized to. Don't question it. Just follow. Don't wish it was different...just follow.

I find myself being magnetized to people all the time and wonder why. Especially in relationship with the opposite sex. I think, this person is not exactly good for me and not on the same path as me, why am I attracted to them? For me it is more than just looks that attracts me to someone, there is an energy there and when I feel that energy, I know that I am being magnetized. For me it is always about energy. We all have the ability to tune into that and become sensitive to the energy around us. Then we can begin to follow the energy and see where it takes us. But we must first become conscious of it.

Larisa says that when we are magnetized to someone there is an energy there that wants to heal. We are all mirrors of each other and sometimes we are magnetized to someone to get a healing gift for ourselves from them. Sometimes there may be something about that person that drives us so crazy that we can't even stand that person, but maybe that is something in ourselves that needs healing.

For instance, maybe your significant other is always really defensive about things and that upsets you. But then you begin to notice that you are always really defensive and never realized it. So the gift was in you realizing your defensiveness and working on it personally so that you can let it go and be able to stay more open to others. Maybe you and that person no longer have a relationship, but their gift remains. So getting really conscious about why you are no longer together and seeing the gift in the relationship is key. Even if the relationship was horrible, what gift can you take from it? Learn to look for the gifts in all of life's situations, both good and bad. If you want to label them that way.

Just stay open, stay in the flow, look for the gifts and follow the magnetism.

Love and light,

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

What limitations are you putting on yourself?

I have been feeling very free lately. Not so worried about what people think of me if I say certain things, dress a certain way, or do different things. I never realized how I was putting myself into my own box. I came to the realization a few months ago that I had a fear of being trapped, that in my deepest of depths I wanted to be free. I thought freedom meant having money to be able to travel any where whenever I wanted to and if I did not have that money that I would be stuck. That was my biggest fear. I had to come to realize that I am free in this very moment. That I am not stuck or trapped, but that the limitations that I was putting on myself were making me feel that way.

Today I have begun to see just how much I was limiting myself. In fact, the self definitions that we hold is our biggest limitation. If we think we are trapped, we will feel that way. If we believe ourselves to be anything that starts with "I Am" we have already put ourselves in a box. It is about getting rid of limitations that we put on ourselves by not being attached to any one aspect of what it is that we do. Who we are is not made up of the laundry list of things we have done, continue to do, or plan to do. Who we are is a divine expression choosing to have these experiences. Go deep and ask yourself the question "Who Am I?" Really try to discover who that person is. It may surprise you to realize you are not all of those things that you think you are, or the labels that we put on ourselves. Once those begin to strip away you feel more and more free, able to act in ways and do things you previously thought you could not.

Things that just keep coming up for me that I am working with:

1. No limitations-stop putting yourself in boxes and let go of all the I Am's until the only thing that is left is I Am that I Am.

2. Quit having expectations of people or situations. Realize that people are going to do what they are going to do and you can't change them. Be content with them the way they are and love what is, or let them go. But quit fighting the never ending battle of wishing things were different. As Larisa Stow says: Get real with the way things are, instead of how you want them to be. So true. We have lots of expectations, don't we?

3. Stop questioning yourself. You are a vast awareness of knowledge if you just tap in.

4. Don't have attachments to outcomes, people, things, etc. So what if you had one amazing night with one particular person, don't get attached to the idea of ever seeing him again, just put that little memory into the vault and take it out when needed. Just don't get attached to him. The Buddhists believe attachment is one of the causes of suffering and indeed it is. Stop and take inventory of those things you are attached to and think what it would be like without them...suffering. Now work on becoming less attached. Sounds easy, right? Yeah not so much, but the first step is to become aware.

5. Have fun and act like a kid as much as possible. Today I climbed a tree, laid down in grass, built sand castles and ran through an open field with my favorite 3 year old on the planet. It was divinely simple and fun. Exactly how life should be.

6. Know that you are free right here in this moment. Free to do what you please, free to choose to be present and aware, completely open or closed. What do you choose?

Love and light,

Monday, October 25, 2010

Energy Efficiency

When we think of energy efficiency, we tend to automatically think of turning off lights, unplugging unused electrical equipment and efficient heating and cooling options. But the energy efficiency I am referring to is our own personal, inner energy. Our bodies are made up of energy. When we are tired, we sometimes say I have low energy today, or when we are hyper we say, I have lots of energy. We really are made up of a vast array of energetic pathways that run all through our bodies in all different directions.

Just like any electrical piece of equipment, sometimes parts don't work right, sometimes it breaks down and needs repair and sometimes there is a short circuit. In body energetics this would be called a blockage. There is something stuck in the body that is preventing a flow of energy to a certain part. Like when water is running through a hose and you kink the hose and the water stops running, sometimes kinks form and stop energy from passing through. These "kinks" can show up as knots in the body, colds, flu, pain in certain areas, tightness, or a vast array of other symptoms.

How do the kinks form, you may ask? From our day to day lives and the pressures we put on our bodies. From us not tuning inward and listening to our bodies and giving ourselves a break. From being stressed, from not speaking our truth, from not being content with a situation, from work, from driving, etc. Our bodies are holding on to so much, they may even be holding on to past trauma, things from childhood, or even as far back as something from the womb. As scary as that sounds it can all be worked with and worked through by people who do energy work. I do energy work, as well as many of my friends and there are many different techniques. But it all works on getting stuck energy out and removing it from the body, as well as doing healing massage. On top of that, discussing any relevant concerns, issues or frustrations that you are working on is helpful. Not holding things in. There are many of us who feel that being silent about their problems is better than sharing them, but truthfully you need to vent and let them out sometimes. Even if it is just to a good friend. Share and release. Get rid of that energy so that it doesn't stick with you and get released in another way.

It is also important to pay attention to who/what you spend your energy on. If you hang out with a certain person and always feel drained after you spend time with them, maybe it is a good idea to distance yourself for a bit. Energy efficiency works in all areas of your life. If you go to work everyday and hate what you do and where you work and are negative the whole time you are there, but it pays well and that is why you stay, your body will begin to tell you things sometimes in the form of pain or sickness. It is the whole idea of being content with the way things are, or changing them. But not being negative and taking your stuff out on others. That is giving your negative energy to the world and that is what we need to cut down on. When walking by others on the street, how awesome is it to just say "hi", or to get an unexpected "hi" and "have a nice day" from a stranger. It sounds small, but this is one big step in the right direction. Say "hi" in an elevator. Tell people when they leave to "have a nice day", I do it all the time.

Be content with where you are, with what you have and live in gratitude for everything you have in your life right here in this moment. That is the best way to begin to cultivate energy efficiency right now. Beginning to clear out those things, people, situations that no longer serve you, that make you feel less than the shinning, beautiful expression that you are. Start today to conserve your energy. To use it on things to better yourself, your future and the world around you. Watch how as your energy changes into a more free-flowing, loving energy it begins to shift those around you. It is a ripple affect. Just like a rain drop in a pond that sends out ripples, your energy radiates out to those that come into contact with you. Don't take my word for it, try it for a day. Try to stay in the positive flow, to say hi to strangers, to be in the moment. Try it and see what happens, no matter your situation and whatever excuses you can come up with for not trying it. Just try it and see.

Love and light,

Monday, October 18, 2010

Where are we efforting?

I watched the movie River of Love, a movie about Amma the "hugging guru" from India. It was such a beautiful movie and Amma really lives true to her word. She was asked in the video doesn't she get tired from the long days of sitting and hugging for hours on end, usually thousands of people in a day. To that question she replied, "Love is effortless."

I have thought a lot about that statement. I have wondered why in my own life I get so tired. I am not working long hours any more, I am doing work that makes me happy. So why? I sometimes get crabby and wonder why? Usually when I am tired. Why am I tired so often? What am I efforting towards that is exhausting me? Where is my light not shinning and what causes it to turn off? Where am I not in the flow?

If love is effortless, where am I putting too much effort that is making me tired? It is something to think about. Until next time...

Love and light!